I had a conversation with a friend a few days ago that really resonated with me. We were traveling for work and he noticed my luggage. Ryan is a reader of this blog (hey dude!) and he asked if I really could fit all of my possessions into the single carry-on bag I was holding. I said yes and he said something that surprised me.
“You know Danny, there is one really big take away I have got from getting to know you.”
I looked at him worried. Dudes don’t usually just flat out compliment other dudes.
“When other people get more money, they upgrade their lifestyle. When you got more money, you simplified your lifestyle.”
I nodded politely but was slightly bewildered.
“Before I saw you do it, I really didn’t realize there was another way.”
I laughed. I hadn’t realized there was another way until he pointed out that I had done it. Instead of buying a bigger apartment every time I got a raise, I had got into the habit of buying a smaller one. I didn’t plan it that way but my way really did work out better.
I will be moving to Europe soon and the entire packing process won’t take me more than ten minutes. Think about that.
I started my decluttering process about a year and a half ago. I was living in Seattle and had an apartment full of stuff. I was reading blogs like Mnmlist and started to get more interested in minimalism. At the time, I didn’t have a goal, I just wanted to feel more free.
It took me a long time but I eventually got my stuff count to exactly 100.
Below are the tricks I have found most helpful for getting rid of my stuff:
The Box Method
By far the hardest part of this process was getting rid of the stuff that I had an emotional attachment to. I had collected a fair amount of clothes and keepsakes from my travels and I didn’t want to just throw them out.
Instead of throwing them away, I put them in cardboard boxes, sealed the boxes with tape and stuck them on the top of my closet. If I really needed anything from a box, I would have to reach up and unseal it. This worked great and I only ended up opening a box once to grab a shirt I needed.
After about three months of not opening the boxes, it was much easier to donate the possessions they contained.
The Friend Method
But what about the stuff I still didn’t want to give away? In college I was in Chi Psi fraternity (the photo at the beginning of this post offers a glimpse into that awesome world) and since that time I had accumulated a lot of fraternity stuff that I couldn’t get anywhere else. I didn’t want to throw them out or donate them so I did the next best thing, I gave them to my friend for safe keeping. He had the same emotional attachment to them that I did, so I knew if I ever really wanted them back, he would still likely have them.
The One a Day Method
The methods listed above helped clear a lot of space but it didn’t really help me get rid of clutter. To solve this, I started throwing away or donating one thing every day. I literally added a daily todo list item to accomplish this. Slowly but surely this helped me chip away at my stuff.
The Buy Up Method
But if you get rid of all of your stuff, won’t you be left with no stuff? Well yes actually but this is a great opportunity. Since I wasn’t relying on so much stuff, it freed me up to buy higher quality items to replace the items I really did need. For example, instead of buying the same shirts I had been buying for years, I went out and bought a few higher quality shirts. I did the same with my jeans, shoes, underwear and coats. This has worked great as now I dress better everyday and my clothes last way longer.
Stay Away Method
See Rohan Ayyar’s extremely helpful comment below.
What About Furniture?
At first I messed this up. I started out by renting furnished apartments from traditional agencies. This was a huge mistake and cost me way more than it should have. Since then, I have started only renting from Airbnb. AirBnB is a service that offers furnished rentals by the month and if you do your negotiations well, can cost you half of what it would cost otherwise.
I’ll be the first to admit that my minimalism is extreme. I don’t recommend it for everyone and it certainly won’t work for families living together. Instead, I hope this post gives you some ideas and hopefully some inspiration for decluttering at least a little bit. If your experience is anything like mine, a small change will make you feel a lot better.
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